Trying to maintain relationships outside of my marriage - Wrong Planet

Ravenfeather1 Emu Egg Joined: Dec 17, 2012 Posts: 8 Posted: Mon Dec 17, 2012 10:42 am?? ?Post subject: Trying to maintain relationships outside of my marriage My husband and son have aspergers. My husband has cost me two jobs and my son one job. I am not angry about this, i love being a stay at home mom. But sometimes i need adult time. I could make friends easily, earlier in our marriage, and then when we would hang out, my husband would say something, cause a scene, and then no more hanging out. Then my husband would tell me that i caused it and I need to change and learn how to behave in social settings. So then i tried to have friendships that were mine,but eventually it leads back to family cookouts, birthday parties, my husband wandering away from me, men asking me who i came with, and then my husband saying something to my friends, and no more friendship. Then he tells me i need friends. He doesn't wantto talk to me. I spend my days running the kids places, helping with home work, cleaning the house, its come to the point that i dont seem to know how to have a even an acquaintance with other stay at home moms. They dont have the same issues. I end up feeling like a freak. It is emotionally stressful to deal with my son who is now in high school, explaining the nuances and navigational tools of socializing, and then dealing with my husband who is constantly fussing because everyone is out to get him at work. I love them both. And i know i can do this. How do i separate it? How do i learn to be socially functional again when i do get to hang out? Thanks for any advice Back to top minervx Phoenix Joined: Apr 14, 2011 Age: 21 Posts: 908 Location: United States Posted: Mon Dec 17, 2012 10:52 am?? ?Post subject: aspergers is something society should be more embracing of, but it is not a license to act like a jerk. even if someone is unintentionally being a jerk, it's their responsibility to shape up a person with AS who is struggling socially, needs to stop blaming and justifying, look themselves in the mirror, and say " i need to work hard to changing" Back to top abyssquick Deinonychus Joined: May 08, 2011 Age: 30 Posts: 323 Back to top Ravenfeather1 Emu Egg Joined: Dec 17, 2012 Posts: 8 Back to top SilkySifaka Lemur Joined: Apr 23, 2012 Age: 27 Posts: 1372 Location: UK Back to top Ravenfeather1 Emu Egg Joined: Dec 17, 2012 Posts: 8 Back to top

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